iamarrianel♥ve: March 2011

so hindi ako eeksena ng kanta ni rebecca black na friday friday charot na yon. (kung di nyo alam ang sinasabi ko, iresearch nyo sa youtube ng mabadtrip kayo. chos!) matagal ng request ng sambayanang pilipinas na magblog ako about sa 'friendship' which is alam kong sarcastic ang mga request na yon. pero hindi, tutugunan ko ang mga hiling nyo, medyo may pagka-uto uto din kasi ako paminsan minsan sa life ko.. so why not now? :)

im no expert to friendship, but im blogging/writing this based on my experience and obviously how i am with my friends.

now a days people are living in a fast manner and it is very hard to maintain a deep friendship for a long time. however we can maintain it if we want to do so. one mark of a good friendship is reliability. knowing you can depend on each other no matter what. i have friends whom i can't hardly see because of distance or conflicting schedules, but when i do make the time to sit down with them, it feels like i just saw them yesterday. mega kamustahan and chismisan all throughout the meetup but there is no hint of awkwardness despite not seeing each other face to face in ages.

have you ever felt this way? that when you meet up, BOOM! you are so reminded of why you clicked so well in the first place. once i took this for granted. i think, know and feel that my truest of friends will be there for me no matter what. but i guess greatest lesson learned the toughest way.

moving on, we all understand that we're extremely busy with our own lives, studies and echos extra activities, so meet-ups and getting together get rarer. but i know at the back of our minds, we all know that when we need each other, we'll be there. no doubt about that.

friendship is not all about the good times together, but being there with each other even in the hardest times.

last, forgiveness in friendship. walang superwoman even in frienships teh. for example, the friend who cancels dinner with you because she has just fallen in love and would rather go out with him. keme ka lang kunyari pero deep inside gusto mo na sya saksakin! putting yourself in your friend’s shoes and seeing the situation from her points of view doesn’t always work. sometimes it actually backfires since you tell yourself this really bothers you and that you would never do something like that. so how could your friend? a more aware person would realize that you and your friend are different and that it could be just those differences that might make your friendship so strong.

friendship requires that two people who are equally committed to making their unique and powerful relationship last. it is based on trust, honesty, mutual liking, and sometimes even shared activities, but most of all shared values. one of those shared values that will take you very far with each and every friendship, including the friendship with yourself, is recognizing and agreeing on the value of forgiveness. pero it doesn’t mean you let a friend walk all over you if they are mistreating you or ignoring you to a point that is unacceptable. dont criticize or apihin o alipustahin ang friend mo because she let you down, at least try to find out just what was going on in her life that was behind her actions and see if you can forgive her. diba? :)

a real friend is a treasure. you don't throw a friend away because your feelings got hurt or you are unwilling to discuss a misunderstanding. don't let the silly, often insignificant negatives destroy your friendship. the relationship itself is important. it is worth fighting for. it is worth sacrificing for. to me, if it's worth the fight, it is worth the sacrifice.

if you can't sacrifice to maintain the friendship, then maybe it wasn't true friendship to begin with.

make those "kamusta ka na?" more frequent, even if it's just over the phone, or a quick message on facebook, a 5-minute chat are fast but thoughtful way to keep each other feeling extra cared for within this already special bond of yours.

♥B