At dahil broken hearted ako ngayon at medyo may sakit. why not coconut at mag-emote? Isabay mo na sa ingay ng ulan para melo-dramatic talaga ang dating. :) Anyway, this goes to everyone who one way or another experienced, experiencing or will be experiencing (at least alam mo na.) a broken heart. *sabay tugtog ng 4 SEASONS OF LONELINESS.*
At one point in our life, we experienced ‘heart broken’. Hindi tayo decepticon o autobots para maging excempted. The intense grief, emptiness, sadness, anger, confusion, heaviness of emotional kachorvahan. Depending on the kind of person you are and the situation, break-ups can be traumatic enough to affect your emotional and physical health. They may say that no one ever died of a broken heart, but when you’re suffering from one, it sure doesn’t feel that way, at least as of now. Most people will tell you that you’ll get over it or you’ll meet someone else, pero hindi eh. It seems easier said than done. As a person of psychological studies (charot!) these may be the ways I learned to get over these kaimbyernang feeling. Suggestion ko lang to ha. May freedom of choice tayo. :)
1.) Be aware of your real intentions
Gusto mo bang mag-move on and move past the break-up? Or mega hopeful ka pa na babalik si ex? Define your emotional goal. You can’t move on until you’ve truly accepted that the relationship is over. :)
2.) Make a clean break
Huwag gawing hobby ang pakikipagbreak. Don’t do the ‘on-again-off-again’ routine. I swear papahirapan mo ng bonggang bongga ang baga at puso mo. Also, resist the urge to call your ex. How do you know if you are over your ex? That’s the million-dollar question! A good indication is when you no longer want to get back together with the person. Kaya mo yun! Additionally, when the thought of your ex having a relationship with someone else doesn’t affect you which is.. well, a long process, i guess! Although you might not necessarily be ‘happy’ for him/her, but if you have gotten over your ex, you won’t care either way. Taray!
3.) Don’t get self-destructive
Maging incredible hulk ang peg? NO NO! trying to hurt yourself or someone else, drinking or taking drugs to become numb and feel better, or locking yourself up in a dark room DOES NOT help your situation. These things don’t actually deal with the pain, they only MASK it, which only worsen the agony. GUSTO MO YON?!
4.) Share your feelings
It could be with a friend or family member. Talking is a great way to cleanse your body and soul and ease your tension. take it from me :) keri lang ang pagiging emotera sa harap ng friends o kay papa o mama. The important part is to share it with someone you know who listens and understands you :)
5.) Cry it out
CRY, CRY AND CRY. There is one study which proved that you will feel good after you cry :) Krumayola ng walang humpay. Okay lang yan. As long it will soothe your pain and your heart. Getting some of those raw emotions out can be a big help, so it’s okay to cry as much as needed. :)
6.) Give your heart time to heal
It takes time for sadness to go away. I swear this will took A LOT OF TIME. Getting over a break-up can take a couple of days to many weeks — and sometimes even months. But, give yourself time. Hindi yan ung mga bagay na pagkagising mo ay okay ka na. Matatagalan, but i swear.. IT WILL BE WORTH IT. :)
7.) Keep yourself busy
This can be difficult when you’re coping with sadness and grief, but it really helps. Kung peg mo maging workaholic, gow! Just don’t push yourself too much. Just make sure you busy yourself with positive activitie tulad ng maglinis ng bahay nyo, linisin mo na din ang bahay ng kapitbahay nyo! Or maging red cross ka sa baranggay nyo. :) Don’t get self destructive. GASTOS LANG YAN!
8.) Remind yourself of your good qualities
Often people with broken hearts blame themselves for what happened. Getting your self-esteem back on track is the key to your recovery. Wag sisihin ang sarili sa pagkasira ng relasyon, there is always a reason for everything. :)
10.) Learn from the break-up
Take the positives from it, and even more importantly, learn from the negatives. Take it as a reference in your future relationship. :) There’s nothing worse than bringing your negative habits along with you to future relationships, because you’ll just end up with the same result until you learn from your mistakes.
and last..
11.) Take charge
Find the courage to pull yourself out of this kalokohan. Take charge of yourself and you will find that there actually is life after ‘What’s-His-Name’! You just need to make the decision so you can move on. :))
Take tiny steps each day and you will be amazed that you are starting to feel better. Lean on your friends and family, and remember, time will heal all wounds.
